Just got back from getting a pedicure and it is hot, hot, hot outside. I didn't even want to walk from the car into the nail shop that's just how hot it is out there. Anyway, earlier today I was listening to an internet radio show on BeeHive FM and the ladies were asking each other what they thought about the "kept" woman and I thought this would make a good blog post. **side-bar** I'm referring to SINGLE women in this post.
Ok I'll start off by saying any woman who says they don't like it when a man buys them nice things or offers to help them out financially is either lying or not really wanting to admit it out loud. That's just my opinion. Could I be a kept woman? I'm not sure that I would like the feeling of depending on someone else TOTALLY to pay my bills because whoever controls the purse strings gets to control YOUR strings. They can pretty much do whatever they want, tell you how high to jump and you don't have a say in the matter for fear of being cut off financially. I know me being the independent Leo woman that I am, I wouldn't feel comfortable giving anybody that much control over how I'm going to live my life and on what terms. I would feel like a kid depending on him for my "allowance" for the week. I think that would be my only issue with being a kept woman....the feeling like I have to put up with whatever or "turn a blind eye" or else my bills won't get paid. That can't be a good feeling in my opinion.
Now on the other hand...because after all I do have two of those....lol. I'm not so independent where I can't accept help if a man wants to help me out financially. If he offers to help me pay a bill or two or wants to buy me nice things then I'm not gonna turn it away because I have my own thing going on and that's just him adding icing to the cake....he's not the whole cake. If he gets to acting a fool I can tell him where to get off and oh by the way don't let the doorknob hit you on your way out......good day......lol. You can't do that when you're dependent on him for everything accept air. What man really respects a woman that doesn't have any boundaries or just lets him treat her any kind of way and won't stand up for herself. Oh well, to each her own....and that's all I got to say about that there. ~More later.
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4 comments:
A kept woman doesn't loose all control unless she chooses Mr. Wrong. When I was married my wife didn't wrk, but she pretty much managed the expenses. I didn't have a prblm with that. She got nice things all of the time, and when she wanted to make her own money she did. I didn't take away her ability 2 do what she had 2 do, but I gave her security to know that if she didn't want 2 wrk she didn't have to. Anyways she decided that she wanted to be more self sufficient. Let me tell u now that we are divorced she miss the old life more, but that's another story. Good Read!
@ Champ...She was your wife so there's a big difference there...When I get married I could easily stay home for a while and raise kids if my husband could afford it.
@Kandia...u r absolutely right, but then that forms question of why would anybody leave themselves that vulnerable to somebody that they aren't going 2 marry.
It's for that reason I couldn't do it. Then we break up and I'm just caught out there scrambling to get back on my feet...I'd have to be storing away money for a rainy day that's for sure.
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